My boss loaned me a book: "The New Stereo Soundbook" https://www.amazon.com/New-Stereo-Soundbook-Ron-Streicher/dp/0966516206?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-osx-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0966516206
In there I came across a chart, which you can see here:
https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Loudspeakers-and-Rooms-for-Sound-Reproduction-—-A-*-Toole/7b0e3101e1788608d75d024ac926d25a077b85bc/figure/5
Looking at that chart I decided as an experiment to adjust my side and center channels to be 20ms delayed and 9 decibels attenuation. That puts them in the zone of detectability by not enough to shift the image. The result is highly agreeable to my ears. It sounds like normal, good stereo in a good, larger room. Compared to running all channels at full volume and time aligned, this is much more stable. With four channels at full volume, very little head movement will change the sound appreciably. With attenuation and delay, there's much less perceived change when moving around.
The book also mentioned that even in anechoic chambers, when extra channels are added with time delay and attenuation, an sense of spaciousness is restored. My room is nowhere near anechoic, but it's pretty well damped at this point with lots of absorption panels and some tube traps turned with their reflectors toward the wall. I'm thinking that for small bedrooms, a highly damped room with extra spaceousness channels is a good way to go. I'm thinking I'm going to keep adding absorption to see if it's even possible to over-deaden the room with this setup.