BigStewMan Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 So a friend writes: "If you had to live the same life over and over again for eternity, would you choose the life you are living now?" If you say no, the follow-up question is "then why are you living the life you are living now?" For me, the answer is no. Too many regrets. I don't like the second question. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gilbert Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 In short, a resounding No!, because I didn't know then, what I know now. Currently living the life I have, because I'm too old to pursue the career I longed for most of my life, but didn't go for it, because I puss'ed out..... didn't have the balls to just go for it. But then, had I done otherwise, I may not have the great wife and children I do now. Moral of the story, don't dwell on the past, live for today. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babadono Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation." - Henry David Thoreau "I wish I knew what I know now when I was younger." - Rod Stewart(well he sung it, don't know if he wrote it) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 Pedal to the metal. The follow up question is fine if you had many different lives to try. Otherwise it just sounds like an excuse for suicide. The only reason I would say no is if I knew I had more chances, otherwise, I'm cool with what I've done regardless of the regrets. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Matthews Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation." - Henry David Thoreau I believe that to be true behind the facades of some formerly-ambitious people. At some point, life seems to suck the dreams out of many people who once dreamed. Some handle it well. Others are bitter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigStewMan Posted October 28, 2015 Author Share Posted October 28, 2015 The follow up question is fine if you had many different lives to try. But we do--we can whine or make changes. I can agree with Gilbert…in hindsight, i’ve played it way too safe. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 I agree with gilbert too. One thing leads to another and if it's good then there is no reason to whine. We don't have the luxury of following past decisions not made. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators dtel's wife Posted October 28, 2015 Moderators Share Posted October 28, 2015 (edited) The follow up question is fine if you had many different lives to try. But we do--we can whine or make changes. I can agree with Gilbert…in hindsight, i’ve played it way too safe. You only have one life, this isn't a dress rehearsal! Edited October 28, 2015 by dtel's wife 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Naseum Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 So a friend writes: "If you had to live the same life over and over again for eternity, would you choose the life you are living now?" If you say no, the follow-up question is "then why are you living the life you are living now?" For me, the answer is no. Too many regrets. I don't like the second question. The second question isn't profound. Sure, if I could live it over if choose one that was a little better. Let's score them like this: if today's life is a 6, I would choose a 10 as the one to live over and over. But a 6 is certainly not a 0! Therefore, there's nothing bad about living this one out. Now, as you get real old, your quality falls, that's a fact. And if my quality falls below say a 2, them I will choose to end it. Sent from my SM-T330NU using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The fallacy is that you think it would be a ten if you chose such and such. The fact is you don't know how it really would have turned out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Matthews Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The bigger fallacy is the presumption that you can just wish your 10/10 life, and it will be yours. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Naseum Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 (edited) "Life" is that stuff that gets in the way of your plans! Sent from my SM-T330NU using Tapatalk Edited October 28, 2015 by jo56steph74 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The bigger fallacy is the presumption that you can just wish your 10/10 life, and it will be yours. I think that is what I said, but carry on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigStewMan Posted October 28, 2015 Author Share Posted October 28, 2015 but the heart of the question deals with the choices that we’re making now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 And that is what we are talking about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Matthews Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The bigger fallacy is the presumption that you can just wish your 10/10 life, and it will be yours. I think that is what I said, but carry on. I thought you said that one of the fallacies is you might think you know what you want but be in error. What I said is that even if you know what you want, that doesn't mean you can have it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Matthews Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 but the heart of the question deals with the choices that we’re making now. True. If you know you can do something that will make you happier, then, do it. That's a no-brainer. The anxiety comes from either not knowing or inability... or both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldtimer Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The bigger fallacy is the presumption that you can just wish your 10/10 life, and it will be yours. I think that is what I said, but carry on. I thought you said that one of the fallacies is you might think you know what you want but be in error. What I said is that even if you know what you want, that doesn't mean you can have it. That's a very fine distinction. If you substitute your term presumption with my you think the concept is pretty close. In the end the result is the same is it not? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Naseum Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 A good argument is that life is always and only this exact moment. Ergo, tho live happily, be happy this exact moment. Sent from my SM-T330NU using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Matthews Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 The bigger fallacy is the presumption that you can just wish your 10/10 life, and it will be yours. I think that is what I said, but carry on. I thought you said that one of the fallacies is you might think you know what you want but be in error. What I said is that even if you know what you want, that doesn't mean you can have it. That's a very fine distinction. If you substitute your term presumption with my you think the concept is pretty close. In the end the result is the same is it not? I think not knowing what you want and not being able to get something you know you want are 2 very different things. But we need not digress over this.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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