John--despite all the jokes on this forum, I sure hope that we're all capable of being serious and will have some spirit of friendship amongst us--even those we've never met. So, it's totally alright to bring this up on this forum--you're amongst friends. While on this forum, I've had my 26 year marriage end in divorce; buried my Mom; got run over by a truck while crossing the street--each time, i mentioned it on the forum and got words of encouragement and/or condelence from my forum buddies. You did the right thing by reaching out. Don't have any magic words obviously; but, like Carl mentioned I'm a big advocate of prayer. It's a rough road to walk down, for sure; but, you'll make it. Kindest Regards, Steve