Griffinator Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Just got word today that the most special lady to ever pass through my life passed away on Sunday. I hadn't spoken to her in a couple months, but I knew back when we were still seeing each other that this was going to happen. She had a rare blood disease that she knew was going to catch her sooner or later - she split up with me last year because she didn't want me to have to bear what was coming, and for her kids' sake, she allowed her ex husband to move in with them during these last few months. It's been a really tough day for me, and sorry to vent this here, I just need to talk it out. I've never been loved by anyone the way Donna loved me, nor have I ever loved a woman the way I loved her. Death sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ben. Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Sorry to hear it, Griff. Keep your chin up, bud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j-malotky Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Griff, sorry to hear what your going through. It is always hard to loose someone dear. At least she is not suffering with her illness anymore. Someone once told me that love is the only thing that can't be separated by death. Your story reminds me of that fact. Take care, JM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m00n Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Griff, I don't know what to say. I'm truly sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colterphoto1 Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Geez Griff, that's a tough one. Chin up, keep those fond memories, maybe do something special in her honor. Man, that's a tough kind of love for her to try to spare your feelings and make the decision to bring her family back together for her final months. Now about healing the Griff. What to do? Can/will you attend the funeral? Did she have a favorite charity or group? Were you close to her kids- maybe you could do something for them? Death does suck, the older I get, the more friends I lose. It's part of the natural order of things, we don't have to be happy about it, but in time, I think we must accept it. msg if you need to talk deeper. We're all family. We're here for ya man. Thanks for sharing. Michael Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griffinator Posted August 9, 2005 Author Share Posted August 9, 2005 I'm actually doing that, Mike, hosting a tournament at the gaming site where I met her on Thursday night in her honor. She was much loved by all who came in contact - she was just an incredibly giving person. We are depleted as a species for the loss of her. She was just that kind of woman - never had a harsh word for anyone, and would give the shirt off her back for ya. Amazing person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griffinator Posted August 9, 2005 Author Share Posted August 9, 2005 Oh, and no, I have no way to make it down there for the funeral - finances are just not going to allow that right now. I fully intend, however, to visit the grave as soon as I can. I've found that in and of itself to be a very healing event when dealing with this.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cluless Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 ---------------- On 8/9/2005 4:26:39 PM Griffinator wrote: I've never been loved by anyone the way Donna loved me, nor have I ever loved a woman the way I loved her. ---------------- Griff- I'm not one to deliver platitudes or "comforting" thoughts.. Look at your own words and consider yourself among the MOST fortunate clu Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skonopa Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 ---------------- On 8/9/2005 4:26:39 PM Griffinator wrote: Just got word today that the most special lady to ever pass through my life passed away on Sunday. ---------------- Sorry to hear dude! Hey, if you want, I am only but a couple hours away. If you want somebody to just hang out and shoot the $#!+ with, somebody to just talk to, I'll be more than happy to drive out that way this weekend. Sad to hear the loss of a near and dear friend. I guess the words from Kamelot seem appropriate here: "A broken rainbow falls from the sky The tears of sorrow Fill a young man's eyes There's a dark cry from deep inside From a splintering heart" -Kamelot, "Troubled Mind", Dominion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobbyT Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Sorry for your loss. Remember she will live on in your heart and your memories. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daddy Dee Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 Griffinator, Sorry to hear this. It is a huge loss, perhaps inexpressible. It is a good thing to see, as clueless noted, that you know you have been given a gift in her life. There is no being ready to let it go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wheelman Posted August 10, 2005 Share Posted August 10, 2005 Griff I'm sorry to hear about your girl. Life can be so tough sometimes. Death of the flesh does suck, but thank God her soul lives on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynnm Posted August 10, 2005 Share Posted August 10, 2005 My condolences Griff. In time you will know that you have healed because at some point you will realise that you have had a memory of her that carried no sadness with it. You will of course have sad moments after that but once you discover that a fond memory had carried no grief you will know that you are on the road to being healed. That said, as a former therapist , I can tell you that the grieving process realistically takes about 3 years....Don't try to rush it...You cannot.... And denying grief only perpetuates it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fini Posted August 10, 2005 Share Posted August 10, 2005 I, too, am saddened to hear of your loss, Griff. Clu said it best (as usual!). You are a lucky man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.4knee Posted August 10, 2005 Share Posted August 10, 2005 Griff sorry to hear of your loss. I know in times like this life tends to suck, but keep your chin up the pain will eventually give way to the fond memories and cherished times you have locked deep within you. Again sorry to hear of you loss, remember we are always here to lend an ear...eye for whatever the need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hwatkins Posted August 10, 2005 Share Posted August 10, 2005 ---------------- On 8/9/2005 7:31:28 PM cluless wrote: ---------------- On 8/9/2005 4:26:39 PM Griffinator wrote: I've never been loved by anyone the way Donna loved me, nor have I ever loved a woman the way I loved her. ---------------- Griff- I'm not one to deliver platitudes or "comforting" thoughts.. Look at your own words and consider yourself among the MOST fortunate clu ---------------- As usual Clu goes to the heart of things. I agree with her - hang in there big guy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picky Posted August 11, 2005 Share Posted August 11, 2005 Griff: I am extremely sorry for your loss. Consider yourself fortunate for having known her and for the time you were able to spend with her while she was here. Take heart in knowing that she is now in a better place and she is not suffering. Remember that she will always be with you wherever you go, in both memory and spirit. No one can take that away from you. May God bless her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griffinator Posted August 24, 2005 Author Share Posted August 24, 2005 Thanks all for your kind words. Clu - yeah, you're dead right - but it doesn't hurt any less for it. We're all selfish, when it comes right down to it, and losing something that special, when you've never had it before, just leaves a big hole.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdm56 Posted August 24, 2005 Share Posted August 24, 2005 Sorry for your loss. Best Wishes, Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daddy Dee Posted August 24, 2005 Share Posted August 24, 2005 Big hole sounds like it rings true for me. Keep on hanging in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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