gonzp Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Prayers and thoughts from our family to yours Bruce. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travisc Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Marvel, you are the most Humble and helpful member of this forum IMO. You have helped answer my questions and others time and again. Dee said it earlier, take care of yourself foremost so that you can better take care of your wife and your son. If that means venting on this forum so be it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jt1stcav Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 You say it's taking its toll on you, your wife, and your son. Yet, you have the best outlook on life (and death) as anyone I know. Of course, it's your wife's strength of mind and spirit that seems to lead you as well...I pray for you and your entire family that the strength of faith and love that's leading you all will continue to lead you 'till the end of time! Peace... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marvel Posted November 19, 2005 Author Share Posted November 19, 2005 It has been a great day! The steroids are working wonders for now, keeping the swelling in her brain down. We actually have three kids. The one coming home from school (he's on the shuttle from Nashville as I type this) is the youngest (20). The next is a member here, Invidiosulus (24). The oldest, our daughter (26) is taking off all next week, so she can help ferry the youngest around (can you believe he's 20 and has no drivers license?) and be with her mom. We have great kids. Plans are for getting with some other relatives at Thanksgiving. None of the other treatments were anything that would cause hair loss, but the radiation certainly will. She's ready for it. There are a couple of other things that we might try, but she doesn't want to do any of the harsh treatments and be whacked out from them. Later guys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colterphoto1 Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 "There are a couple of other things that we might try, but she doesn't want to do any of the harsh treatments and be whacked out from them." That sounds like a reasonable and caring course of action. I think that's what I would ask for, given the same condition and prognosis. Quality of life has got to be paramount at a time like this. Blessings to you and your family for the Thankgiving holiday. Michael Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.4knee Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Bruce. So very sorry to hear this. We lost my father in law to NHL about 10 years ago. I know well the fight you have fought. Please know we will continue to keep Barbara, you and your children in our payers. Stay strong and love your time together. BTW yes I can believe 20 and no Drivers Lisc. I was that way once. God blessR/Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fini Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Oh, Bruce, Bruce...Please feel a big wrap-around hug from me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebes Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Bruce, the rollercoaster of hope and despair that goes with a serious illness is probably the most tramatic of all. I never have the words needed for a situation such as this, and thankfully that's why we have poets and singers with greater depth of understanding of life than ours to probe these feelings. It's a poor substitute for my own inadequate words but it sounds that your long life together with your wife leads to me believe it may reflect these lyrics: There are places I remember All my life, though some have changed Some forever not for better Some have gone and some remain All these places had their moments With lovers and friends I still can recall Some are dead and some are living In my life I've loved them all But of all these friends and lovers there is no one compares with you And these memories lose their meaning When I think of love as something new Though I know I'll never lose affection For people and things that went before I know I'll often stop and think about them In my life I love you more Though I know I'll never lose affection For people and things that went before I know I'll often stop and think about them In my life I love you more In my life I love you more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommyC Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 It has been a great day! The steroids are working wonders for now, keeping the swelling in her brain down. We actually have three kids. The one coming home from school (he's on the shuttle from Nashville as I type this) is the youngest (20). The next is a member here, Invidiosulus (24). The oldest, our daughter (26) is taking off all next week, so she can help ferry the youngest around (can you believe he's 20 and has no drivers license?) and be with her mom. We have great kids. Plans are for getting with some other relatives at Thanksgiving. None of the other treatments were anything that would cause hair loss, but the radiation certainly will. She's ready for it. There are a couple of other things that we might try, but she doesn't want to do any of the harsh treatments and be whacked out from them. Later guys Great news, Bruce! My mom has been battling Small Cell Carcinoma for a couple of years. We all worried about her losing her hair (you would have to know her to really understand how bad we thought it was gonna be!). She really surprised us. She never let it bother her a bit and on one occasion even had us all rolling. A friend of my neice's saw her with her wig and said "your hair looks nice." My mom didn't hesitate. She lifted the wig and said "thanks, it's not mine!" We are to the point with mom of waiting for the inevitable, but considering her original prognosis was for "maybe a couple of months." we are very happy to have had two more great years. The Chemo and radiation have been really tough, but she has demonstrated time and again why I fully believe that she is the strongest woman on the planet! Hang in there Bruce and enjoy the time you have. There are lots of people out here praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cal Blacksmith Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 Bruce, there are no words anyone can say to ease the pain your family feels. Our lives in the grand scope of things are all short, a few years here or there really don't matter in the overall picture. It sounds like you two were lucky to find each other and share 30+ years. Some of our trials are long, others not so long but they all mold us into the people God wants us to be. Please accept my prayers for you and your family that the Lord will ease the suffering and may you look forward to the sure and certain future together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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