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I just wanted to thank all of you for your heart felt wishes.

I have to admit that it hasn't entirely sunk in yet... this is

especially true for my mom. I think that is why I waited almost a

week before posting about it.

Ironically this is something (almost) everyone has to face at some

point of his or her life, but for some reason I was unprepared.

After having successfully fought off cancer over a year ago, it seemed

he was invincible.

Although it's been a while, we both had the opportunity to express our

appreciation for each other and the last couple of years have been our

best. If anything, I'm glad we left off on such a positive

note... just wish it hadn't been so soon.

Thanks again...

ROb

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ROb,

One of the faculty, at the college where I work, gave me this quote from Samuel Johnson. It is from a letter he sent to a friend on the death of the friend's wife. ALthough about husband and wife, perhaps you can find some comfort in it as well. My prayers are with you and your family, especially while I am at Mass this weekend.

Bruce

'The loss, dear Sir, which you have lately suffered, I felt many

years ago ,and know how much has been taken from you, and how little

help can be had from consolation. He that outlives a wife whom he has

long loved, sees himself disjoined from the only mind that has the same

hopes, and fears, and interest; from the only companion with whom he

has shared much good or evil; and with whom he could set his mind at

liberty, to retrace the past or anticipate the future. The continuity

of being is lacerated; the settled course of sentiment and action is

stopped; and life stands suspended and motionless, till it is driven by

external causes into a new channel. But the time of suspense is

dreadful.

'Our first recourse in this distressed solitude, is,

perhaps for want of habitual piety, to a gloomy acquiescence in

necessity. Of two mortal beings, one must lose the other; but surely

there is a higher and better comfort to be drawn from the consideration

of that Providence which watches over all, and a belief that the living

and the dead are equally in the hands of God, who will reunite those

whom he has separated; or who sees that it is best not to reunite.'

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Rob, very sorry to hear of your loss.

A guy I knew remarked when I lost my own father that he had gone

through the same thing I was going through. He said one of the

toughest parts was knowing that even athough we were long since adults,

you always had it the back of your mind that there was a backstop there

if times got tough or troubles came a calling. Your father.

Sad and a little scary, but know this, he's done his job in that

respect. From what I've seen of you here, you'll do just fine.

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